15 Strict Parenting Rules You Grew Up With That Seemed Normal Back Then
Strict parenting styles were once considered the gold standard for raising disciplined, well-mannered children. Looking back, many of those rules—though normal at the time—might seem over-the-top or even counterproductive by today’s standards.
From micromanaging free time to rigid household routines, these parenting methods were designed to maintain order but often left little room for individuality. Here are 15 strict parenting rules many of us grew up with that shaped childhood in ways we didn’t question back then.
No Talking Back
Even if you had a valid point, questioning a parent’s decision was off-limits. Talking back was seen as disrespectful, and discipline often followed swiftly.
This rule, while meant to teach respect, sometimes stifled open communication and critical thinking.
Homework Before Play
Schoolwork always came first, no matter what. Parents believed in a strict “study first, play later” policy to instill discipline and ensure academic success.
For some kids, this rule meant sacrificing downtime and outdoor fun for the sake of productivity.
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Early Bedtimes for Everyone
Many households enforced a strict lights-out policy, regardless of whether you felt tired or not. The logic was simple: more sleep meant better health and behavior.
While it ensured rest, it often left little room for family bonding in the evenings.
Chores Were Non-Negotiable
From making your bed to mowing the lawn, chores were an essential part of daily life. Refusing to do them wasn’t an option, as contributing to the household was considered your duty.
This rule taught responsibility but sometimes felt like an endless list of tasks.
No Snacks Before Meals
Parents believed snacking would “ruin your appetite,” so eating anything before dinner was a no-go. This rule often left kids waiting hungrily while dinner was being prepared, teaching patience—albeit begrudgingly.
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Strict Screen Time Limits
Television time was heavily monitored, and video games were often a weekend privilege at best. Parents believed too much screen time would rot your brain, so entertainment was rationed with military precision.
Always Finish Your Plate
“Don’t waste food” was a mantra in many homes. Leaving even a morsel of food on your plate could earn you a lecture about starving children elsewhere.
This well-meaning rule sometimes forced kids to overeat or ignore their body’s signals.
Permission Needed for Everything
Whether it was going to a friend’s house or simply grabbing a snack, you had to ask first. Independence was tightly controlled, and making decisions on your own was rarely encouraged.
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Respect Your Elders Without Question
Blind respect for elders was expected, no matter how unreasonable their demands might seem. While the rule emphasized politeness, it sometimes dismissed a child’s right to express discomfort or disagreement.
No Privacy in Your Room
Many parents operated under the belief that a child’s room wasn’t truly their own. Doors were often left open, and personal belongings could be inspected without notice, all in the name of “keeping an eye on things.”
Strict Dress Codes
Certain outfits were banned outright—too revealing, too trendy, or simply not “appropriate.” Parents enforced a conservative approach to clothing to ensure kids were “dressed properly,” leaving little room for personal style.
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No Sleepovers on Weeknights
Sleepovers were often reserved for weekends only, and even then, they required heavy parental vetting. The rule aimed to protect sleep schedules and routines but sometimes felt overly controlling.
Church Every Sunday
In many households, skipping Sunday church service was unthinkable. Even if you didn’t want to go, attendance wasn’t up for debate.
This rule instilled discipline and faith but could feel restrictive for children seeking autonomy.
No Talking at the Dinner Table
Some parents enforced a “no talking” policy during meals, believing it ensured better focus on eating and good table manners. For kids, this could make family dinners feel more like formal events than bonding time.
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Curfew Was Set in Stone
Curfew times were absolute, with no room for negotiation. Even being five minutes late could result in a punishment.
This rule taught punctuality but often felt unfair when other kids were allowed to stay out longer.
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