The 18 Most Annoying Things Boomers Do Without Realizing It

Generational gaps are inevitable, and each group has its quirks. However, some habits passed down from one generation to the next have become a source of frustration for younger people.

While Boomers may not realize it, some of their actions are constantly triggering eye-rolls or frustration. Whether it's outdated sayings or certain behaviors that don’t quite mesh with today’s society, this list highlights 18 things Boomers could do well to leave behind to foster more positive connections with others.

“Back in my day”

Boomers love to reminisce about how things were better in their time, but constantly starting conversations with “Back in my day” can alienate younger generations. It often sounds dismissive of the progress and changes society has made.

Instead, it’s more effective to acknowledge the past with context: “When I was growing up, things were different, but I appreciate how things have changed now.” This way, you honor the past without belittling the present.

Not understanding technology

It’s no secret that many Boomers struggle with modern technology, from smartphones to social media. While it’s okay to need help, often this frustration is vocalized in ways that can be frustrating to younger generations.

Instead of dismissing new tech with “I’ll never understand this,” try asking questions and embracing learning opportunities. Showing curiosity about technology can help bridge generational divides.

Constantly giving unsolicited advice

Boomers are known for giving advice, whether it's wanted or not. Sometimes, this advice is well-intentioned but feels condescending or controlling.

Instead of assuming that younger generations need advice, ask if they’d like to hear your perspective. This opens up a conversation rather than forcing an opinion.

Like iepmommy's content? Follow us on MSN.

Disregarding modern work-life balance

Many Boomers grew up with a “work hard, play hard” mentality, but in today’s world, younger people often prioritize work-life balance. Boomers may sometimes criticize the younger generation for not being as hardworking or committed.

Rather than devaluing the new work ethos, try recognizing how both generations can benefit from healthier, more balanced lifestyles.

Using outdated phrases

“That’s so gay,” “You’re acting crazy,” and similar phrases were once commonly used without second thought, but these expressions are now widely seen as disrespectful. Boomers may not realize that these words are offensive to others.

It’s important to keep language in tune with current sensitivities, avoiding expressions that could harm others.

Treating younger people as “kids”

Even as younger generations grow older, Boomers often continue to view them as “kids,” which can come off as condescending. Recognizing their maturity and independence is essential.

Instead of calling them “kids,” try referring to them by their roles or acknowledging their adulthood: “That’s impressive for someone your age!”

Like iepmommy's content? Follow us on MSN.

Ignoring personal boundaries

Boomers may not always respect personal space or boundaries, especially in today’s more aware society. Whether it’s asking personal questions, making physical contact, or interrupting, it’s important to respect everyone’s space.

Instead of feeling entitled to access someone’s time or personal matters, practice asking permission or being mindful of comfort zones.

Overusing the phrase “It’s not a big deal”

Boomers sometimes trivialize problems by saying “It’s not a big deal,” which can invalidate others’ experiences. Younger generations often feel that their struggles are minimized or dismissed, leading to frustration.

It’s more supportive to listen and acknowledge concerns: “I can see this is important to you.”

Constantly saying “You should be grateful”

While gratitude is essential, demanding it can feel like an emotional manipulation. Telling someone to be grateful can undermine their own feelings and experiences.

Instead, encourage gratitude by modeling it and fostering appreciation in ways that don’t come off as patronizing.

Like iepmommy's content? Follow us on MSN.

Oversharing personal stories

Boomers often share long personal anecdotes, but sometimes they lose their relevance to others. While these stories can be valuable, they can be tiring when told repeatedly or at inappropriate moments.

If you want to share, make sure it’s in context and listen to others’ stories too. Balance is key.

Assuming everyone shares their political views

Boomers might be used to openly discussing their political opinions, but younger generations often prefer to keep such conversations more private. It’s essential to respect others’ boundaries and avoid assuming everyone shares the same views.

Instead, engage in respectful discussions if it comes up, without pushing personal opinions.

Having an overactive need to “fix” things

When Boomers see a problem, their instinct is often to “fix” it—whether or not it’s needed. This can feel overbearing to younger generations who prefer autonomy and problem-solving on their own.

Rather than immediately jumping to solutions, try asking, “How can I help?” to give others the space to express their needs.

Like iepmommy's content? Follow us on MSN.

Making judgments based on appearances

Boomers may still hold onto traditional views about appearance, like assuming people are not serious or capable based on their clothing or tattoos. However, today’s younger generations are more focused on individuality and authenticity.

Embracing diversity in all forms, including appearance, helps foster better understanding.

Assuming technology is “bad” for kids

Boomers sometimes see screen time and social media as harmful to younger people, but these tools are also beneficial for learning and connection. Rather than demonizing technology, try understanding how kids use it for creativity, education, and socializing.

Dismissing mental health issues

Boomers may have grown up in a time when mental health wasn’t as openly discussed, which can lead to dismissing emotional struggles. However, mental health is just as important as physical health.

Acknowledging that mental health is a valid concern can foster better support for younger generations.

Like iepmommy's content? Follow us on MSN.

Talking over others

Boomers often have a tendency to interrupt or talk over others during conversations. While they may be excited to share their opinions, it’s essential to let others speak.

Active listening fosters more engaging and respectful interactions, allowing everyone to feel heard.

Refusing to adapt to modern parenting styles

Boomers sometimes criticize modern parenting methods like “gentle parenting” or “helicopter parenting,” thinking these styles are too permissive or overbearing. However, these strategies are often about supporting a child’s emotional development.

Rather than dismissing new parenting trends, try to understand their foundation.

Refusing to admit mistakes

Boomers can sometimes be reluctant to acknowledge their own errors, often out of pride or a need to maintain authority. However, admitting mistakes shows maturity and strengthens relationships.

Instead of being defensive, embrace learning from mistakes and model growth.

Like iepmommy's content? Follow us on MSN.